The fruits of a busy week in November (and a delightful surprise).

In November last year I had a sudden urge to get stuff done. Almost desperately. I booked in a dentist appointment (first in two and a half years), waxing, hair, optometrist (first in five years) and car servicing in the space of three days. That Sunday I found myself removing everything from the pantry for a stocktake. At this point Big Poppa looked at me closely and asked “Are you ok?” I stopped and thought about it and replied the only thing that seemed logical at the time. “I think I’d better do a pregnancy test.”

For those of you that have been following along, the year that followed our miscarriage was really tough. While grieving for our loss we tried month after month to conceive. Some months my period was up to 9 days late and I would have done 6 or 7 pregnancy tests, all negative. I hate to think over the space of a year how many of those little plastic sticks we sent into landfill.

Anyone who has experienced difficulties conceiving will know about the woes of tracking or charting your cycle (something I tried to avoid, fearing I’d get obsessive about it), forcing yourself to have exhausted sex between putting the toddler to bed and doing the dishes because IF WE DON’T DO IT RIGHT NOW IT’S ALL OVER FOR A MONTH AND WE MIGHT AS WELL GIVE UP NOW

(deep breaths)

and then the dreaded two week wait where you allow yourself to get hopeful every time you experience something vaguely different in your body (and find yourself Googling ridiculous things like “Is finger pain an early pregnancy symptom?”) and then trying to wait until the right time to take a test, then taking one early and getting a negative result but reassuring yourself that it’s just too early and then taking one at the right time and it coming out negative and convincing yourself that there is definitely a shadow and then taking another half a dozen just to be sure and then stressing yourself out so much your period ends up being late anyway, causing more angst.

Plus, crying in the doctor’s office. Crying in your boss’s office. Crying on the way to work. Crying on the way home from work. Crying in the middle of the night. Crying into your child’s hair. Changing your diet. Not drinking alcohol. No sugar! No caffeine! No additives! No fun!

Convincing yourself there is something dreadfully wrong and avoiding having your scheduled pap smear on time because you don’t want to find out and sending your husband off for tests because you’re afraid to send yourself off for tests, then three blissful months of acupuncture (if you exclude the three months of dreadful mornings and evenings of drinking foul tasting Chinese herbs) and finally you realise you can’t afford to keep that up and something has to give and…

Well – around comes October. We’ve passed the painful anniversaries of our baby’s due date and the date of our miscarriage the year before. I’ve come to an agreement with myself (and a very accommodating Big Poppa) that every new period will result in eating one full wheel of soft cheese, drinking one full bottle of red wine and booking in one full overnight, getting loose, letting it go girls’ night with my friends. We have decided to stop acupuncture and stop focusing on getting pregnant. We’ve started to think about all those other things we could plan for our future that don’t involve having another child. We have (again and again) celebrated the beautiful child we already have and have decided that’s enough. We’re thinking about working in Alice Springs and taking Little Fearse to New York and maybe even Disney Land. Our last hurdle to endure in our conception journey is a fertility appointment, booked months ago and coming up fast. After that we’ve agreed that armed with whatever knowledge we gain we will refuse any invasive tests or treatments and just get on with our lives.

And then, BAM. I’m booking a thousand appointments in a week and emptying out the pantry and taking a pregnancy test and WHAT? Two lines. Two lines. Two tests with two lines. FOUR LINES. This is more shocking than the 300 tests we’ve taken this year that were negative. Three tests, six lines. Four tests, eight lines. So we cancelled out fertility appointment and readjusted our future again.

And here we are. We’re 22 weeks along. It’s been anxious. There have been weeks of bleeding and blood tests, there have been 5 ultrasounds and 8 instances of hearing a healthy beating heart. We are at a stage now where we are finally feeling that this is something that is really happening – that come July we’ll have another Little Fearse (Mini Fearse? Tiny Fearse?) in our lives.

[Cute pic of Little Fearse and the bump to come when I’m…you know…not in my PJs and she’s…you know…not covered in Vegemite.]

Mama xo

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School holidays are upon us.

I often hear parents complaining that they are dreading the school holidays. I don’t know whether I’ll be one of those parents in the future, though I suspect that being a teacher makes you dread them less. My Mum always LOVED the school holidays. She said she planned all the adventures we’d have well ahead of time. She’s a great Mum. I hope to be a Mum like that in the future, but I can also imagine that all that time together, especially during the winter holidays, could really drag.

These holidays I am planning some adventures. BP has the time off from studies, too, so we can spend some fun time as a family. I hope to visit the local reservoir to check out the kangaroos (and the play ground, of course) and we’d like to make the most of Little Fearse’s membership to the swimming pool by spending a little time there. I’d also like to have another go at edible finger paint now she’s a little older.

I’ve been reading about many other great holiday ideas, mainly for older kids. If you’re facing two weeks with your school age kids maybe some of these cheap and fun activities will float your boat:

And if you’re from Melbourne, too, and want some ideas for fun outings here are some really comprehensive lists.

If you’re from somewhere else, I bet there is a website dedicated to your city, too. Don’t forget to look on your local council website or around your area. There are so many free activities from moonlight cinemas to crafting and cooking workshops. It’s amazing how well children are catered for if you really look for it.

Get Googling!

Happy holidays,

Mama xoxox

Guest Entry: Bubble Kids

We are really excited to have Amy-Lee and Alexandra from one of our favourite FB pages, Bubble Kids, share some of their best ideas for entertaining 1 -2 year olds. Their page has given us heaps of BNN ideas for toys and activities we can share with Little Fearse. Bubble Kids is a favourite of educators, cash-strapped parents and those who value creativity over stuff when spending time with youngsters.  

(Advance apologies for the issues we’ve had with formatting this entry. Let’s call the random blank spots pause for thought.)

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Hello! My name is Amy-lee and I’m one of the two admins of the Facebook page Bubble Kids. I created my page with the help of Alexandra to give all types of parents all sorts of easy and cost efficient activities and ideas to do with their children. When we were asked to write this blog we had so many ideas and thoughts float through our heads that it made it incredibly hard to narrow it down to just a few! So we have decided to stick to the theme of ideas, games and experiences for children between the age of 1-2 years and here is what we have come up with!

Cardboard roll shakers:

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1 cardboard roll, bells and fishing line/wire to stick the bells on to the cardboard roll.

Children will have hours of fun shaking these and making lots of different music with these.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Drums:

ImageAll you need to make these are 1 tin (old formula, milo or coffee tin), two different colour balloons for each tin and scissors to cut the patterns into the balloons.

Use different size tins and layers of more balloons to create different sounds.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Pasta necklaces :

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Raw pasta and string (or left over ribbon!) and food dye if you want to get extra creative!

So easy but yet so fun to make.

You could even change this up a bit by using fruit loops, grapes, slices of fruit or anything really, just attach a toothpick to the end of the piece of string so that it has a point to push through the fruit with.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Sock puppets:

ImageSock puppets can be made from odd socks they are just laying around the house, left over felt/wool from other projects and buttons for eyes!

You could create a whole family of sock puppets and put on a puppet show using an old cereal box (cutting out the sides) as the stage!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Pet rocks:

ImageI mean who doesn’t want a pet rock?! Pet rocks are so easy to make with what ever

resources you can get your hands on and they have so many uses.

They could be a part of a “puppet” play, act as a “no talking” rock, a member of a rock family or even a doorstop! So many possibilities!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I spy jars:

ImageRecycled plastic bottles filled with rice, beads, glitter or anything really and then a few little items tossed in so the children can find the hidden objects!

These don’t have to be in a jar, any container will do! For older children you could also attach a list of the “hidden” objects for them to find.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We have enjoyed working with the Fearse Family to put this post together and hope you all enjoy it. You can find many more ideas just like these on our Facebook page Bubble Kids.

Amy-lee and Alexandra xx